Though the
English language only has a few vestiges of gender left in its lexicon, most
languages spoken today still use gender as an effective way to communicate the undercurrent
of a word’s meaning. For the last several days, I’ve been thinking about the
word “wisdom” and what it means to be wise. I think I have grown wiser over the
years, especially as I close in on 40, but I know I have so much more to learn
and experience before I would consider myself wise. And if our hero Socrates is
any model for this, we would do ourselves a service by even doubting what
wisdom we claim to have.
The Greek
word for wisdom that is at the root of the word philosophy is Sophia. It’s interesting to me that the
word is feminine because it intimates tenderness, a supple nature that is
yielding when it needs to be and firm only when absolutely necessary (like all
good mothers are). More importantly, this reveals what I think the heart of
wisdom is—our collected experiences being brought to bear on a particular
situation in a particular moment. Wisdom does not have a one-size-fits-all solution
to any challenge; instead, it is a skill that is honed over time if we are
willing to learn from our failures and mistakes as human beings.
Part of
what brought on this reflection during the last few days is due to the book I
am reading, Practical Wisdom: The Right
Way to Do the Right Thing by Barry Schwartz and Kenneth Sharpe. They make a
clear case for the need for cultivating wisdom in everyday living, especially
in a society that prizes rules and incentives—two forces that essentially erode
that wisdom (or at least its application). What’s most important about this
book, though, is that the authors illustrate time and again how wisdom is not
only necessary but universal. It is a skill that can be developed just like any
other and, most notably, does not require super-human intelligence to be wielded.
What is
wisdom to you? How would you define it? Do you consider yourself a wise person?
Why or why not? If so, how did you become so? Are there better ways of
cultivating it than others? If not, why do you feel that is? Surely you must
have some wisdom about some aspect of life, correct? How can we all encourage
the use of wisdom in our daily living and the lives of others?
P.S. - If you love TED Talks as much as I do, check out Barry Schwartz's lament on the loss of wisdom in our society. It's quite good and full of useful anecdotes that demonstrate that anyone can be a wise person. I'm about halfway through the book, which is chock full of even more of these types of examples.
